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Anonymous said: what do u think about nicki skinny shaming in anaconda?
I think skinny ppl can turn off her song and open literally any magazine, watch any other video or movie and tv show and see their body types idealized and praised
Also, she is actively challenging white beauty standards; we all benefit from this even the skinniest of the skinny. Because the more we can admit beauty comes in vastly different forms (not just skinny white girls!) then the more we can stop living in a culture that encourages women to judge each other instead of working together to destroy ALL PATRIARCHY.
Thank you, St. Onika!
To my male friends who have complained — gently! Respectfully! But still infuriatingly — about the “misandry thing”: I do not really want to send you to an island. I do not want to light you on fire, or send you into space, or put you in a box and put the box in the ocean. I do not need to drink your tears to live.
But I do think the concept of “manliness” needs to be taken out and shot. And when (not if, but when, because this is how privilege works) you slip up and do something sexist, when you shout down a woman who knows more than you or act like her body and clothes are designed for your pleasure or just ignore the inequities around you because you can, because you were told all your life that this was okay and only learned recently that it isn’t and you have to fight to remember that and it’s hard, that’s the guy I want to banish. I want to banish That Guy so you can be the generous, just, compassionate human being you are, and one day when all of Those Guys are banished we can be human beings together.
Also, because as much as I relish my role as Man Whisperer and genuinely want to help good-faith dudes along, it must be said: I am sorry if I made you feel unsafe because you weren’t sure whether I was really going to do the ocean box thing. That does sound like something I’d realistically do in real life, so I can understand why you were confused. But JOIN THE FUCKING CLUB. We’ve been listening to rape jokes and wife-beating jokes and smiling and gritting our teeth since forever.
At least you get to feel mildly wrong-footed by jokes about something that is not happening literally every day."
Yesterday the husband and I went over to my parents’ house to use their pool. Look at the sweet angel we found hiding in the pool umbrella!
My hair is wet and shitty, whatever, but I’m cleaning out my piles of makeup and I’m not sure about this lipstick? Also I’m trying to hate my face less, so I’m putting this out here. WHATEVER WHATEVER WHATEVER.